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Emotional Maturity: Living Your True Story
Do you ever find yourself running on empty, pushing through your days despite feeling depleted? If you’re like many people, you might be caught in the cycle of chasing achievements while neglecting your deeper needs. In this exploration of emotional maturity, you’ll discover how to reconnect with your authentic self and create a life that truly resonates with who you are. You’ll learn practical ways to advocate for your own needs while maintaining your commitments, ultimately transforming how you show up for yourself and others.
The Foundation of Emotional Well-being
Jason Gaddis, founder of the Relationship School in Colorado, identifies four fundamental needs we all share: the need to be safe emotionally and physically, to be seen and understood, to be soothed and acknowledged, and to be supported and challenged in life-affirming ways. When these needs are met, we come alive – we thrive and find harmony.
While we naturally seek to fulfill these needs in relationships, I’ve discovered something equally important: we must first meet these needs within ourselves. If we cannot trust our own feelings, physical sensations, thoughts, and spiritual essence, how can we be vulnerable enough with another person to let them see, comfort, and support us?
The Magic of Self-Connection
When you, the most constant person in your life, take care of your needs, something magical happens. You develop the ability to trust others and surrender to life’s joys. Your faith in life strengthens when you’re present to your thoughts, emotions, and reactions, welcoming the longing that exists at the heart of it all.
As Masiandia wisely shares, “When you connect with your longing, you dissolve all the limiting beliefs that prevent you from enjoying and celebrating life.”
The Mirror of Self-Awareness
How safe, conscious, soothing, and supportive are you – both with yourself and others? While it’s natural to focus on how others make us feel, the deeper question is: how safe are we with ourselves? Are we someone others can be vulnerable with? Do we bring understanding to both our needs and the needs of others?
Consider these questions on a scale of 1-10:
In relationship with yourself:
- How safe do you feel?
- How seen, heard, and understood do you feel by you?
- How soothed and comforted are you by your own self-nurturing?
- How supported do you feel?
In relationship with others:
- How safe do they feel with you?
- How seen do they feel by you?
- How soothed do they feel by you?
- How supported do they feel by you?
Living Your Authentic Story
The key to living your own story isn’t about planning out every detail of your life or projecting expectations onto others. As Byron Katie wisely notes, “When I’m mentally in your business or God’s business, the effect is separation… Being mentally in your business keeps me from being present in my own.”
Instead, emotional maturity means developing self-awareness, practicing honesty, and being accountable. It requires welcoming all facets of your being – your physical body, thoughts, emotions, and spirit. When we’re truly in touch with ourselves, we allow our physical experience to inform us about the mercurial nature of our minds, the fluidity of our feelings, and the embodiment of our spirit.
This journey of self-connection creates the foundation for authentic living. When we nurture our fundamental needs, we don’t just survive – we thrive, creating ripples of positive impact in all our relationships and endeavours.
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To learn more about soul-purpose and how to live from the heart of spiritual integrity, check out my book: Mystical Intimacy.
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